We are delighted to have Nikki Lord as our new columnist at Cougar Dating. Nikki has been modelling for years and has appeared on a variety of channels from Men & Motors to Babestation. She is a very sexy woman and is here to help you in your quest to capture one!
This week, Nikki lays bare the secrets of how to snare.....
How to Attract a Cougar
She's comfortable with herself, she has high confidence, she is ‘A Playerette’.
Cougars are sexy felines who hunt younger men. Cougars are an interesting and unusual breed of women. They want what men want, which is ‘sex with no strings attached’.
She is very flirtatious. If you are a guy on the market who's remotely to her liking, you'd be hard pressed not to notice her suggestive demeanour.
She often makes the first move on men, coming on strong, so you have to do little work.
Younger men are fascinated with the cougar because she is not only hot but she possesses the confidence and wisdom that the younger women do not have.
Here are a few differences to wisen you up so that you can make the most of these great creatures.
Do not confuse a cougar with a pussy cat. The first rule is to understand the true meaning of a cougar and what you are trying to land. A cougar is a woman who dates men that are at least 10 years younger. A cougar is hot, in good shape, extremely confident, successful, independent and looks much younger than her actual age.
How you can spot a cougar. She dresses quite suggestively. Her clothes are generally sophisticated. She will look like a young ‘hottie’ and flirtatious who has lured you into her lair.
She is very confident because she is hot and she is looking for casual encounters rather than commitment. She likes sex and attention and works it thanks to her physical and social gifts.
The cougars are more willing and able than younger women. Her attractiveness will have guys coming to her, rather than her having to prowl for male prey.
These older women have the self-confidence that could only come from experience and the knowledge that they can handle whatever life throws their way.
She is looking to sow her wild oats. In that case, a younger man who is not looking for a serious relationship and wants to have fun is just what the doctor ordered!
Sexually, a cougar usually brings experience and confidence to the table or rather, to the bed.
She's no longer sexually inhibited, she knows what she wants and probably has a few tricks up her sleeve, which is all good news for you.
To get a cougar, you must look good and be fit. She is seeking younger men for their youthful "perks". Younger men have the stamina and carefree attitude to satisfy her need for a wild ride.
Cougars are intelligent, wise and worldly. If you cannot be interesting, carry a conversation or teach the cougar something new, do not enter this phenomenon. Read the newspaper and make sure you know what you are talking about or she will chew you up and spit you out.
Her confidence as an older woman is more than your average college junior. So it's important to meet her confidence level. But, be careful, she knows men and can sniff out unfounded cockiness instantly. Be that ‘all together’ guy that she is looking for.
Compliments to the cougar is surprisingly effortless. She puts a lot of effort into looking good (gym, clothes, hair) in order to attract guys. My advice is not to give such a woman any more compliments than normal. The mere fact that you're with her is a compliment, and she knows it. Just judge her personality as you would any other woman and in general, the hotter she is, the fewer compliments she will need.
Would you need to buy gifts for a cougar? She may be more used to receiving gifts than a younger woman may. Buying too many gifts for a woman who you want to meet casually can send the message of wanting to be in long-term relationship, or it could just up the ante for you once you have created that kind of expectation and still want to see her casually. A cougar is not your meal ticket. The cougar does not need a man but chooses to be with the male she desires. Despite her financial success, the cougar is not to be viewed as a ‘sugar mama’ and will not tolerate such requests. The cougar may buy you expensive gifts but rest assured, she will not be paying your rent.
Focus on having good times and lots of sex, which is most likely what she is looking for. That is why she is a cougar. She knows what she's getting into.
If you want to hold a cougar’s interest, you need to be a man and not a boy. The cougar has her pick of the litter. It is crucial that you treat her like a commodity and pursue the cougar in an attentive but not stalker-like manner. The cougar dislikes insecure men and will cut off all contact (and probably your balls) if you continuously text, email or call her. This is especially true because the cougar’s world does not revolve around you in the beginning of the relationship. So maintain a little mystery and tact and you will be generously rewarded.
But if you are a nice guy, all women somewhere deep inside seek that Prince Charming. She could easily get her claws into you, so be wary and as non-committal as usual. Have fun with cougars… You are guaranteed good sex that you like. You can also call these women back months later and if they are still cougaring around, go for it again. They often won't have unrealistic relationship expectations.
Keep It Hard Or Invest In Viagra. Let’s face it, the cougar has an extremely high sex drive. You are there for a purpose and that is to fulfill her sexually. If you are not insatiably driven, do not bother with a cougar. The first time you have limp dick syndrome, she will kick you to the curb.
Stay in control with these experienced women and have some good fun... literally.